More than 25 service members gathered during a
Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors event held at Cheyenne Mountain Resort
during April 2017 as part of the Month of the Military Child.
April 2, 2017 - Attendees participate in a parachute activity during a Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors Good Grief Camps event at Cheyenne Mountain Resort, Colorado Springs, Colorado. The activity provided play therapy for children who had lost military family members.
(Air Force photo by Senior Airman Arielle Vasquez)
The Good Grief Camps program paired children from military
families who have lost family members with mentors to establish
communication, maintain a military connection and let them
understand they are not alone.
Wearing buttons with photos of
fallen loved ones, more than 70 military children interacted with
members from several Colorado-based military posts, including
Schriever Air Force Base, Peterson Air Force Base, Fort Carson and
the U.S. Air Force Academy.
Supporting Grieving Families
TAPS, a nonprofit
organization, provides programs to support families who are grieving
the death of a loved one who served in the armed forces. Retired Air
Force Maj. Bonnie Carroll created the organization in 1994 after
losing her husband, Army Brig. Gen. Thomas C. Carroll, commander of
Alaska’s Army National Guard, in a plane crash in 1992.
the time, there was no organization for losing a military member in
the family,” said Air Force Tech. Sgt. Teri Cervenak, 50th Security
Forces Squadron flight sergeant. “Now, families have somewhere where
they can grieve and talk to other military members who understand
what they’re going through. There were grieving sessions throughout
the entire weekend for parents, children and spouses.”
first day of the program consisted of training for the volunteer
“The TAPS staff was very helpful,” said Air Force
Staff Sgt. Ashlee Wheeler, 50 SFS Operations noncommissioned
officer. “If we were in a situation where we did not know what to
say or do, they helped us out along the way and taught us the best
After participating in a variety of activities and a trip to the
Cheyenne Mountain Zoo, the kids chose who their mentors would be for
the remainder of the weekend.
Wheeler said the children were
initially quiet and somewhat withdrawn, but by the end of the first
day, many of them interacted with other mentees and the mentors.
“The little girl I mentored is 6 years old,” Cervenak said.
“She never shared anything about her father, but within the first
day, she talked to me about him. She never shared anything in a
group setting, but on Sunday she did that for the first time ever,
while pointing to the picture she drew of her dad. The group leader
said that was a huge step for her. It was a blessing to be a part of
Many times, connections made with mentees last beyond the
camps and events.
“The girl I spent time with was closed off at first, but
after a trip to the zoo and activities such as trust falls and an
obstacle course, she became attached to me,” said Air Force Airman
1st Class Marissa Pederson, 50 SFS entry controller. “She began to
share more information about her dad and family members. She and her
mom both asked if I would like to visit her on weekends. I really
want to be there for her after this program so I can continue to
support her during her sporting events and important milestones.”
Wheeler said she thought one of the most important parts of
the weekend was during the second day.
“We did an activity which involved the kids taking turns
sitting in the middle of a parachute,” she said. “We all walked
around and told them we loved and supported them. It was an
important reminder that even though their family member wasn’t here
anymore, they are a part of the service and will always remain in
the military family.”
Mentors and counselors are always available through TAPS
whenever there is a death of a loved one.
By U.S. Air Force Senior Airman Arielle Vasquez
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